Essays
Every essay and video, in date order. Tags and topics have their own pages, so each subject can be found on its own.
- Video · What matters at the end of lifePalliative physician BJ Miller on designing the last stretch of a life around a person, not only around a disease.
- Essay · What to say when someone is grievingSilence is rarely neutral. A name, one concrete memory, and staying there carry more than an explanation.
- Video · You don't have to "move on"Nora McInerny on why laughter is not a betrayal, and why going on is not the same as moving on.
- Essay · A funeral that belongs to the mournersThe amount of flowers does not decide whether the ceremony was about them. It is enough if the name is said aloud.
- Essay · How to talk with a child about deathBriefly, in concrete words, and stopping at their question. A child will fill the silence if the adult will not tell the truth.
- Essay · Grief is not a straight lineGrief is not a list of stages. It is about how absence and ordinary life sit beside each other.